One of the guys

After listening to one of the caller of DJ Chacha’s #hearbeats about her being “one of the boys” as her defense for sending a topless picture of herself to one of her male coworker and went with him after speaking to him in only two weeks (without her lover’s knowledge)…

I suddenly remember another girl who used exactly the same term for herself. My older cousin.

I can’t tell her name here, so let’s call her De.

I grew up as a tomboy, and those I treated as true friends all the way to my preteen years were boys. Mainly because I never really consider myself as a girl.

Yeah. Blame it on my father who raised me like a son.

But once I hit puberty, I saw how the boys seem to look at me differently, treated another way, so I stay away and keep a few girlfriends I can stand.

But De started calling herself “one of the boys,” when she just wanted every boy with her to get a look under her skirts. Whenever I warned her to be careful as she might get pregnant, she ignored me.

I never cared much what she does until I got my first boyfriend.

Let me make this clear. I know I looked cute since childhood. But I was flat as a washboard, and I lack waistline. So I looked like a kid when I was fifteen.

I have complex over my kiddy appearance for years.

My first boyfriend was 19 years old. We become acquainted for 4 months before he told me he likes the 13-year-old me. He never asked for my age. I never told him. He wanted to be my boyfriend. I misunderstood and thought, “a friend who is a boy”=boyfriend.

So I told him I thought he already was (my boyfriend). He didn’t correct me. But when I finally understood what relationship he wanted, I didn’t mind either. I was not in love. I was curious.

De “being one of the boys” immediately turned on the charm when I introduced him. She also changed her clothes into something that show all her curves. I later found out from my boyfriend that few of his friends invited her to “have fun” and instead of refusing, she invited him to join.

I’m guessed that my boyfriend then, who couldn’t do anything more than kiss me once, tried to make me jealous. De admitted years later that he was telling the truth.

De is now a single mom.

The thing that annoyed me about De calling herself “one of the boys” is that she is using it as an excuse for her actions. I hate girls who tries to show who they aren’t the most.

There is nothing wrong with being a playgirl. In fact, I respect girls who openly admits it because it’s honest. But what De did is just annoying. She’s gaving the girls who truly is “one of the boys” a bad name.

Jessica / Jessie Winterspring is a time travel romance fanatic who loves writing fiction about ordinary people with extraordinary experiences. She blogs music inspired stories, poems, micro-fictions, moments in life. She enjoy spending time outdoors, adore animals and traveling with her family. She like anything unusual and fun. CLICK HERE to read more about her or CLICK HERE to view her books


      • Nour R.

        Rant all you like bc it’s fun to read πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
        I’ve priorities and loving someone for one day then the next finding him texting 5 other girls just ain’t one πŸ˜‚ I’m looking for a future not a casual curious relationship πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

  • Nadine

    Yeah, I don’t have respect for those kind of girls, and then at the end they blame the men, no hun it was your fault in this case.
    Btw love the gifs

  • Simon

    After a serious story at the end, scrolling back to see that bite me cat makes me forget everything and laugh πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ And those gifs are funny too, but this cat got me laughing for a while 😍😻😻 he is so cute 😻 and your explanation for boyfriend πŸ˜‚ when I was a kid I thought island is a modified form of Iceland 😜 so funny, it’s a harsh reality and there are few people our their doing mistakes and never accepts it. Nice one Jessica with a msg. I loved it πŸ€—

  • Tushara Olivia

    Ha ha. That gifs. It’s really teasing and funny. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜… And about De, I felt like giving her a counselling section. There are girls who says I am one of the boy. If they say so they meant it in all sense, yet they keep to recognise that they have a feminine body which has much limitations. But this character of De, oh it’s intolerable.😠 And by the way you lost your boy friend. Ha ha, how innocent you were. Couldn’t understand the word boy friend. Too be frank I too thought the way you thought about the word boy friend.πŸ˜‚πŸ˜œ Even though it’s about a harsh reality, enjoyed reading it.πŸ€©β€οΈπŸ‘

    • Jessica E. Larsen

      Isn’t it? The damn word is misleading! What are you supposed to call a boy who’s just a friend if the one you got romantic relationship with is boyfriend πŸ˜‚
      When it comes to De she’s paying for the consequences of her actions, and truthfully it’s a bit too much. It must be hard to be in her situation now and I feel sorry for her, because other that this… she’s a good person.

      • Tushara Olivia

        Yeah, I also felt the same, what the hell is this! What should a simple friend who is a boy should be denoted by.πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Luckily I don’t have to get to the confusion because I don’t have boys as friends. And reading your comment I also felt sorry for De. If she is good in every other sense, it’s really sad.😣

    • Jessica E. Larsen

      Envy is a scary thing… but other that very annoying traits, De is good person. I feel really sad for her, raising a child by yourself on top of being judge isn’t a simple task.

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