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What’s a job? [reblogged]

I first posted this as a guest post at HuesofMaple / WordAllure one year ago and I think this deserves a renewed attention now that I’m once again a stay at home mom.

In a modern country like Norway, people often expect the men and women to have equal (not balance) responsibility.

Whenever I tell that I’m a full-time housewife, what follows is, “So you don’t have a job?”


Did I not just say what my job was?

What makes housewives (or househusbands) less of a job than 9 to 5 office work? In fact, being a full-time stay at home parents is a 24h duty.

I read an article once of a man speaking to his marriage counselor.

The counselor asked: “So you think it’s unfair because you mean that you’re the only one with a job?”
The man:I am the only one with a job.”
The counselor: “What does your wife do when you wake up in the morning?”
The man: “She makes breakfast, prepare lunchbox for me and the kids and drive them to school. Because she has no job.”
The counselor: “After driving them to school she goes home and relax?”
The man: “No, she usually gets the groceries, because she has no job
The counselor: “Then she relaxes after that?”
The man: “She cleans the house and does the chores because she has no job.”
The counselor: “And what does she do in the afternoon?”
The man: “She fetches the kids and prepares our dinner because she has no job
The counselor: “At night. Does she go to bed with all of you?”
The man: “No, she usually stays up and do the dishes, and do some advance preparation for the next day, because she has no job

At this point, I stop reading the damn article because I might punch my computer out of anger. In the story, it was a woman, but I’m sure it happens to men too.

They criticized my uncle as a bum for being a househusband. I always defended him (including from my mother) because god, the man does all the work in the house and raise his three kids with a little help from his wife!

Salute to all stay-at-home mom and dads out there.

Thank you for reading!

Jessica / Jessie Winterspring is a time travel romance fanatic who loves writing fiction about ordinary people with extraordinary experiences. She blogs music inspired stories, poems, micro-fictions, moments in life. She enjoy spending time outdoors, adore animals and traveling with her family. She like anything unusual and fun. CLICK HERE to read more about her or CLICK HERE to view her books


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